Long Distance Relationship Loving Help Blog

"The Secret" You Have To Know For Your Long Distance Relationship

blog@distancelovinghelp.com (Maria Madeira) — Sun, 03 Dec 2006 01:22:00 +0000

My Dear Lover,

You can do or have anything you want from your long distance relationship.

How?

Just watch "The Secret"

I have no words to describe how powerful is "The Secret" , but I can share with you what Brie ( a long distance lover exactly like you and me ) say about "The Secret" : "Thank you so much for this!!! What a mind altering video. I plan to watch it consistently to make this secret a habit!!"

The following video is not "The Secret" , but it will give you a little taste of what is the "The Secret"

Don't measure the distance, measure the Love.
Maria Madeira - "The Angel of Distance Loving Help"

P.S. And please share the "The Secret" with your beloved, with your family and friends!

"The Greatest Secret Of All Time"

blog@distancelovinghelp.com (Maria Madeira) — Sun, 26 Nov 2006 03:16:00 +0000

My Dear Lover,

I know that I don't write nothing to you for a long time, but before you leave this page, please please go to "The Secret" page.

Maybe the only reason you are reading this, maybe the only reason you are a member of this website, is because I had this message to you.

Think about it, go now to see and feel "The Secret" because it's the best I could ever offer to you in all my life!

And please share the "The Secret" with all your beloved, with your family and friends!

Don't measure the distance, measure the Love.

Maria Madeira - "The Angel of Distance Loving Help"

P.S. See now "The Secret" because I don't know for how much time it will be available to see. And I mean it, I wanted to send "The Secret" to you before, but each time I found a link where you could watch the "The Secret" , in the very next day, the link was not more there. Now I found this link to "The Secret" and I for sure don't want you to lose it!

The Magic of Differences

blog@distancelovinghelp.com (Maria Madeira) — Sun, 01 Oct 2006 02:15:00 +0000

Women and men are different. Well, so are we all. Drs. Judith Sherven and Jim Sniechowski think those differences are essential to good relationships.

They can help you be loved for who you really are.
Dr. Sherven and Dr. Sniechowski talk with Dr. Joe Dooley and Sabra Brock on “Relationships for Life” about how to use our differences.

Hear how you just can’t fail at love. Listen to how the differences between men and women can be turned into the source of the very best romance you’ll ever know.

Click here to listen the online audio "The Magic of Differences" (Or right-click to save and then listen)

Click Here to Be Loved for Who You Really Are lays out the natural and
inevitable four passages of love so that you can better
understand the necessary and spiritual purpose for the changes
and challenges you encounter and not confuse the tough
times with disaster or failure.

What others are saying about the book "Be Loved for Who You Really Are":

A "down-to-earth" approach to understanding the differences between men and women; differences that keep us from the intimacy we need and deserve. The magic of this book will bring out the magic in your relationship.

Larry James - www.CelebrateLove.com

Maria Madeira - "The Angel Of Distance Loving Help"

P.S. If you were to cross a "mine field", would you cross following a person that already did it before, or would you try to cross it alone, by yourself?

The choice is yours.

But if you want to follow who already did it, the first step is to listen "The Magic of Differences" online audio, and then buy the book "Be Loved for Who You Really Are"

"My Breast Cancer Story"

blog@distancelovinghelp.com (Maria Madeira) — Sat, 09 Sep 2006 02:41:00 +0000

My Dear Long Distance Lover,

I know that this message will be a little out of context about the
"Long Distance Relationship", but one person, that I do consider my
friend, just launched a website about "Breast Cancer".

Why?

Because she have breast cancer, and she will have a mastectomy on
Monday, September 11, 2006.

Why am I telling you this?

Because I know very well ( or almost ) what she is feeling!

Do you want to know the reason I say that I (almost) know what she
is feeling, then go to http://www.breastcancervictory.com , and read her "Breast Cancer Story", and mine too!

My story is the first comment at http://www.breastcancervictory.com , and post your comment! ( It will make her feel more stronger! )

Don't measure the distance, measure the Love.

Maria Madeira - "The Angel of Distance Loving Help"

P.S. Don't think that this only happens to others ( to my
friend or to me ), it also may happen to YOU!

Online Dating SCAMS

blog@distancelovinghelp.com (Maria Madeira) — Sun, 27 Aug 2006 01:32:00 +0000

My Dear Lover,

Yesterday I found that a working colleague of me, that was"desperate" for having a loving relationship for several years, nowhave a girlfriend.

I am glad for him, but at same time I am "concerned"!

I am glad because he really wanted so so much to have a girlfriend,and finally he did it.
I am "concerned" because he "get" his girlfriend in an onlinedating site.

Of course there is all kind of persons in an online dating site.There are very good, honest and loving persons like my colleague is,but there are also scams persons!

And my colleague is so "innocent", he really is!

So many times I joke with him, telling him "false" things, and healways believe that I am telling the true.
He says to me "Maria, I will never more believe in you! You arealways telling me lies, and I always believe you! Next time I won'tbelieve you."

But, the fact is that "next time" he believe me ( I have to behonest with you, I keep doing to kind of "tease" him ).

And then he comes "Maria, I will never more believe you!". And Itell him that he can't believe in all that people tell him, but henever "learn" it.

But he never "learn" that, because he is a very "innocent" kind ofperson.And that is why I am "concerned" with his new online girlfriend. Ifshe is there for scam purposes, he will be a victim.

I am in a Long Distance Relationship, but my relationship didn'tstarted online, but maybe your relationship did, so I want to sharewith you an article about "Online Dating SCAMS" .

Online Dating SCAMS

Copyright (C) 2006 Elena Solomon, author of 12 Simple Rules

Before you even think about online dating, you must know about dating scams.

This is serious: if you get too deeply involved, a dating scam can significantly hurt not only your heart, but your finances, too.

Make sure you know how to protect yourself from fraud when using dating sites!

Internet personals, online introduction agencies and matchmaking sites allow anyone to join for free, and they usually do not screen their members. It means you never know who is behind this pretty photo: a real beautiful woman or a con artist who downloaded a photo of an unknown model from the Internet.

There are four types of online dating scams:

1. Prostitute scam;

2. Phone scam;

3. Travel scam;

4. Nigerian postal scam.

Let me tell you more about these scams.

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1. Prostitute scam

Prostitutes are straightforward: they place profiles on dating sites to solicit business. Such profiles are usually easily recognized by sleazy user names and steamy self-descriptions. They don't waste time letting you know what they are after.

2. Phone scam

This is the variation of the old phone scam: the person asks you to call them, and when you do, you get a bill in the mail for hundreds of dollars (1900 number).

3. Travel scam

The person resides overseas and asks you to help them with travel expenses to visit you.

4. Nigerian postal scam

The person pretends to be a relative of a diseased government official who asks for your help in a financial transaction.

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So, how can you protect yourself from being taken by Internet con artists using online personals to reach their victims?

Here is the simple guidance that will make your use of online dating sites safe and secure.

First, when you view a profile, look out for the things like a sleazy user name, especially if it's a woman: guys cannot stop thinking about sex 24/7 (and it's normal) - but women normally don't do it. Sincere women don't choose user names like "the_sweetest_sin", "ms_right_now" etc.

Second, read what the profile says: people milking others for money will say something vague that can fit anyone.

Third, look at the photos: gorgeous professional photos in combination with vague profile almost always mean trouble. People with beautiful photos receive LOTS of mail, so they become VERY selective and include many requirements in their profiles (especially women).

Basically, any woman who talks about loving sex and experimenting in bed is most likely not for real.

Any man who talks about being a millionaire isn't for real either.

It doesn't mean there are no women who love sex and experimenting in bed or millionaires on the site - they just DO NOT talk about that in their profiles.

And any person who does, is a liar.

Simple.

Another HUGE warning is overseas profiles. Often people would list their location as being local and when you start talking to them, they reveal they are from overseas (Niger.ia, Russia, etc).

Such profiles should be treated as potential scams - always.

If the location in the personal profile doesn't match what the person says about him/herself, my advice is to drop it altogether and don't waste your time.

If you decide to proceed, do it for entertainment purposes only and don't get emotionally attached.

What will happen, sooner or later you will get a money request in some form - they need money for a sick relative, they want to visit you and need money for tickets, etc - whatever the reason, there WILL be a money request.

When this happens, you can play along and have some fun, asking for instructions and promising to send them money - just don't actually SEND it.

If you do, there are two variants: they will disappear or ask for MORE money (hey, if you were so stupid to send it once, why not try again!) - and keep asking for more money until you stop sending it.

Don't even HOPE this is for real.

Because it's NOT.

You may want to believe it is, but better believe ME: I am a real person and you can ring me and have a chat with me. With those people, you can't.

So, who would you choose to believe: me, who tells you this is a scam - or them, who ask you for money (which you can NEVER recover)?

I work in online dating since 1999 - I KNOW.

Trust me on that.

Long distance + request for money = SCAM.

Forget any sweet stories you've heard in between - and any sweet pictures, too. Most likely, the pics are downloaded from the Net and belong to some model. (Hey, there were even scammers using MY OWN pictures! ;-))

Guys are more vulnerable to this one than girls: I have never heard about a woman who wired thousands of $$$ to some guy to come and visit her - but the Internet is PLASTERED with stories of men sending money to their non-existing female admirers.

How wonderful... this perfect female specimen cannot wait to get hold of your zip and provide you with the greatest pleasure you ever experienced!! OF COURSE she sincerely loves you and is different from any woman you met before (and probably a couple of generations younger than you as well).

C'mon mate: those perfect Playboy-type exemplars dying to try your new sheets exist only in the virtual reality of your correspondence.

They are as real as Santa Claus or Niger.ian millions. You know this one: you get a mail from a relative of a deceased top government official who begs your assistance in transferring large sums of money (stolen from the country's people obviously) - and easily promising to give you a few millions if you simply allow them to use your bank account. The people may list themselves as being from Nigeria, or any other African country.

This one is as clear as daylight, so if anyone starts talking about money transfers, honesty and trust, simply BLOCK them.

Remember the formula:

Long distance + request for money = SCAM.

I hope this article will help you protect yourself from dating scams and you will only meet honest, sincere and genuine singles from now on.

Happy hunting! :-))

ABOUT THE AUTHOR:

Elena Solomon is a dating coach.

Her latest book "12 Simple Rules" became
#1 'Love & Romance' bestseller in the leading ebook distribution service in just ONE WEEK after the release. It shows you EXACTLY how you can utilize the natural laws of attraction and our in-built sexual strategies to win in the game of love. A special part in the book is devoted to online dating.

Get the UNFAIR ADVANTAGE in the battle of sexes!

http://www.distancelovinghelp.com/books/simplybest.html

Don't measure the distance, measure the Love.

Maria Madeira - "The Angel of Distance Loving Help"

P.S. Of course I do believe in Long Distance Relationships, even online, and there are many successful relationships that did start online. This article is not to "scare" you, but it's good to know that this things do exists. Feel free to post your comments here, and to forward this message to your friends.

Who Else Have This Relationship Problems?

blog@distancelovinghelp.com (Maria Madeira) — Sun, 06 Aug 2006 03:45:00 +0000

My Dear Lover,

Some days ago, I receive 2 emails from 2 members of
http://www.distancelovinghelp.com , asking me to help them with
their Long Distance Relationship problems.

Maybe you have the same problems. So instead of answering to them
individually I decided to share with you their problems and my
advices.

As I want to protect their identity, I only will quote their emails
here.

"Relocate With Children"

One member send me this email:

"I wanted to say thank you for your letters. Every time I read them, I have to laugh because it is exactly what I am going through. I have been in a LDR for a year now. I live in Ca. and he lives in Co. We are both divorced and both of us have 2 daughters that we share custody with. From the very beginning, we were working on getting me and my daughters to move out there
to CO., but my ex-husband won't let me take my daughters. I won't
leave without my girls. We haven't been to court yet, but it is
very expensive and I am hearing that most people are not getting
their custody moveaways.
My fiance is afraid of losing me because it is so hard to live
apart. He loves his daughters soooo very much and has been thinking about leaving them and moving out here to be with me. I just think that he will regret leaving his girls down th road and it will affect our marriage. He is the love of my life, I just don't know what to do at this point."

Well , first of all I want to say that I really love that my
letters are appreciated. Thank you.

Second I want to say that I'm so glad that you "laugh" when you
read my letters. It's so good when we can laugh of our situation.
That means that we can "step outside" of our problems, and are more able to deal with them.

Yes, most of my letters are exactly what you are going through
because I am going through by the same! And that is the main reason of this website, to share with you all my experiences, all my advices so you don't feel alone in the Long Distance Relationship "crusade". And above all, that to "show" you that Long Distance Relationships do work.

Now, going to the problem of relocating and the daughters. I once
post at
http://www.distancelovinghelp.com/blog/2005/07/who-should-relocate-in-long-distance.html ,
my advices about relocating. I also address the problems that
long distance lovers may have to consider when there is children.

I don't have children's yet, but I want to have. So in my case
children are not a concern to me. But if I had children's, for sure, what would most determine the decision about who should relocate, would be the "solution" that would put children in first place. And of course you need to communicate a lot with your beloved, and with your children's, with your ex partners (if possible), until all arrive to the "best" decision.

When you say "I am hearing that most people are not getting their
custody moveaways" my advice is that you should not stick only by
what you are hearing. Research, try to find others that were in the
same situation as you, in the past. Speak with them. "Study" the
law system, what is on your side and what is not?

"Interracial Romance"

Another member send me this email:

"I am in a long distance relationship, i love my lover
so much from my heart. we ahve been together for a
while now.
i am in afirca and she is in the states.
last night i called her and she seemed to be crying at
the time of the call.
i asked why and she said she was worried of how pople
are going tio treat me if i go tot he states, since i
am black and she is white. can you tell me how to
handle this, do you stories of poeple in a long
distance mix racial relationalship? what books can you
recommend me to read about this."

And I am going to quote something I receive in my email, some days
ago:

"According to the historian A.C. Saunders, the first time
an auction of African slaves was conducted in Portugal
in the 1440s, townspeople where the auction was
held rioted and interfered with the sale.

Why?

They were outraged by the monstrous inhumanity of it.

A few short years later, what had been seen clearly as
an outrage became business as usual and the multi-century
holocaust known as the Atlantic Slave Trade was underway.

Ken McCarthy
Founder, The SYSTEM Seminar
TheSystemSeminar.com"

Yes, I am from Portugal, I have a lot of proud of being Portuguese, but I am also so ashamed for what Portugal did in the past.

Portuguese nowadays, are a completely different people that we was in the past. I guess the same happens in almost all countries!

Nowadays, Portuguese are a very very beautiful people, we are
friendly and warm people, we love to help, and we are not racist.
We respect a lot other cultures, other religion, and we leave in
complete peace with everybody. And one day, if you come to Portugal ( I hope you do, it's such a beautiful country! ), you will be able to feel it!

When you say "she said she was worried of how pople
are going tio treat me if i go tot he states, since i
am black and she is white.", does she is just worried in her mind, or in fact it's more than a worry? Where she lives people are racist? There is others couples living there, just like you? They are having "bad" times? Can you live with that?

For both of these "problems", the "Relocate With Children" and the "Interracial Romance" I will say that it is a big decision that will change your life forever, you need to be very clear about your expectations and facts also ( not just what you are hearing or worried about.

But my most important advice to you is to listen to your heart.
True love is so precious and can overcome any difficult.

Because both of this "problems" are beyond my experience, and I
want the best for you, I will recommend something that it's a
treasure and a poison.

A treasure because there you will find a lot of very good help.

A poison because there you will find some people that are so angry with life, or that don't love others and themselves enough, and that say horrible things.

Long Distance Relationships ( I guess you will find people that are in LDR and have children's too )
http://members.lovingyou.com/forumdisplay.php?s=&forumid=19

Interracial Romance
http://members.lovingyou.com/forumdisplay.php?s=&forumid=18

And if I can be of any more help to you, please let me know!

Don't measure the distance, measure the Love.
Maria Madeira - "The Angel of Distance Loving Help"

P.S. When you go there, people put your "critique hat", and please don't let yourself be influenced by the "poison". Filter the good ones and discard the bad ones. And if you need some advice, if you get confused about what you read there, please email me, I am always here to help you the best I can.

P.P.S. Please, share your advices, post a comment in this post.
Your help is also more than welcome, and all of us will be eternal thankful to you.

When Sharks Smells Blood...

blog@distancelovinghelp.com (Maria Madeira) — Sun, 23 Jul 2006 00:35:00 +0000

My Dear Lover,

I know you're wondering, "Hey, Maria, what happen to you?"

After all, I promised, you when you become a member of
http://www.distancelovinghelp.com, to give you support and all my
help in your Long Distance Relationship, right?.

Well, if you are a member for some time, for sure you already
notice,that for more than 1 month I don't write to you, I even don't
answer to your emails!

Why?

Well, a lot of things happen in my life, and I feel so lost, so
confused, and scared!

No, I didn't end my Long Distance Relationship, al least that!
Thanks God, and I must say to you, that love is what's making me
not to lost my mind completely.

But let me tell you what happen to me.

Well, it all started in middle of May. For sure, by now, you know
that the only reason why me and my beloved are not together yet,
it's because it's so difficult to find a job form him here, and as
we don't want him to come to be here without working, our target is
to start a business, so we can run it together.

Well, last May, I went to a franchise exposition, and there was
there some good opportunities.

After going to several interviews, for a couple of chosen
business, I end by selecting what we thought it was the best
business for me to start now.

I will not say the name of the franchise because I want to protect
the good name of the owner of the franchise. It's an international
franchise, for long years, and as far I can know, it's a good
franchise outside Portugal.

Until now, there is nothing of the kind here in Portugal. Well,
more or less! Just keep reading and very soon you will find the
reason why I say "more or less".

So, since the beginning of June, I have been really busy going to
that franchise interviews, and a lot more, very soon you also will
find why I say "and a lot more"!

I was not kidding. I really did chose that franchise because it's a
big international success, and it's a good product that helps and
gives value to people life's.

And it was my chance for starting a business here, and finally be
together, for real life, with my beloved.

The "problem" was that I didn't had all the money to buy my entrance
in the franchise. And at the end that was my "salvation", and once
more very soon you will also find why I say "my salvation"!

So, I would need to go to the bank to borrow some "big" money.

Well, no problem. While I was waiting for the response of the bank,
I should give some money to reserve my place in the franchise, and
after I had 2 months to get the rest of the money, and take care of
the legal stuff.

If after those 2 months, I could not get the rest of the money, or
if for some reason I decided not to follow, then they would give me
the entrance money back.

They told me, that they didn't wanted the money just for the money!
What they really wanted was a person with the rigth profile to run
the franchise, and I was that kind of person.

They also told me that they had interview other people, and that
the others didn't had the profile that they were searching. But I
had!

Well, all ok, until one day they ask me the following question:
"Maria, you have the money, of your own, to pay for the
reservation, or you also will ask that money to the bank?"

Of course I had that kind of money of my own! So, they say that I
have the rigth profile for their franchise, and they were thinking
that I would have the idea of starting a business, without any money
at all, of my own?

I don't know how to explain, but that question trigger, inside me,
some bad feeling about them, it was not a smart question!

So I decided to do a real "field" investigation, and I found that
Portuguese consumers are not receptive to that kind of product,
because some years ago, there was here, a similar product, but it
was so extremely bad, that people don't trust anymore in that kind
of products at all.

I guess, it's kind of what happens to us, when we have a really bad
love relationship experience! We tend to think that all future
relationships will also be bad!

And I found something very interesting! I found that more than 1
year ago, another company try to bring that kind of franchise to
Portugal, but it didn't succeed.

When I told them what I had found, they did admit that it was true.
That in fact there was in the past a so bad product, here in
Portugal, that did leave a really bad image, in Portuguese
consumers, about those kind of products. But that their product is
good. And in fact it is. I have proves of that. But no matter how
good is their product, the fact is that it will be so difficult to
change the bad image. Not impossible, but so difficult!

And for the first time, they also admit that they were not the
first company to bring that kind of franchise to Portugal (but
until that day, they told me, that they were the first and only
ones!).

That it was true, more than 1 year ago, another company did bring
to Portugal, the same kind of product, from another brand (but for
what I could find as good as their brand!).

But they told me, that the other company bring the franchise to
Portugal, more than 1 year ago, not to make it a franchise, but
because they wanted to use the product inside their company, just
for them.

WHAT?! If a company wants to use a product, there is no need to
buy a master Portuguese franchise!
A master franchise it's really really expensive!

If they just wanted to use the product inside their company, it
would be far less expensive, just to import the product!

But they were not expecting to listen the following, for me: "I did
call to the other company, and they told me that their first idea,
was to franchise the product, but as they didn't succeed, they end
just by using for them".
"Did you speak with them, and they told you that?!", they ask me in
complete surprise!

It was to late! As you can imagine, by now, I had "red flags" all
over my head!

Why they were not honest with me from the beginning?

Why they told me, that they were the first ever to bring that kind
of franchise to Portugal?

And why they bring that franchise to Portugal? Did they search the
market like I did? It will be so difficult to erase the bad image
that Portuguese have, from the past, about that kind of product!

Well, what all this have to do with "When Sharks Smells Blood...".?

The "problem" was that as soon they found that I did my research,
and I had made the decision of not buy their franchise, that I did
want to quit. I did feel like I was a little blooding "fish" in the
middle of big sharks, and I was not "fish" enough for them!

They already had taken me for granted, they were so sure that I
would buy their franchise.

They didn't accept very well my decision, and they don't leave me
in peace, they keep calling me all time.

I more than feel that they are desperate to "get" me! And I feel so
afraid!

Mind here, that I do believe in franchising, I just had a bad
experience.

My God, just thinking that I was almost getting in debt, and that I
would lose all my little savings, in a bad business.

I am still in shock! What was I doing to do with my life?

You know the feeling, when you put all your beliefs, all your
energy, all your action in one target, thinking that you are
building something better for your future, and at the end you
realize that it would be such a huge "mistake"!

But that is not all what happen to me in this last month!

I also have serious health and money problems in my family.

And if that was not enough, my beloved is so sick, and he is alone!
There is nobody, there, to take care of him, not even to make a tea
for him to take medication!

That breaks my heart! I want to run away, go with him, but I can't!
Until the end of summer, I can't have holidays at my job!

My head is like a washing machine! But now I am back to you again!

I am so sorry. I hope you can understand and forgive me. And I more
than know that you need my help!

P.S. In a couple of days, I will send you the most beautiful love
poem. It was Colin, a member of http://www.distancelovinghelp.com,
just like you, that send me, so I can share with you. Colin made
the love poem to his "woman", his "Half", his "Twin Flame".
She is so lucky for having the so strong love of Colin. I will not
send the love poem today, because it's so beautifully and
deserves to be presented to you in a very special message.

Is Your Long Distance Beloved "One" Of Them?

blog@distancelovinghelp.com (Maria Madeira) — Tue, 30 May 2006 00:02:00 +0000

My Dear Lover,

Go to http://www.thetrenchmovie.com/ to see if your Long Distance Beloved is "One" of Them?

If a Long Distance Relationship is "hard" (but beautiful, because all love is beautiful), if your Long Distance Beloved is "One" of Them, I have no words to describe how brave you are.

Just go to http://www.thetrenchmovie.com/ and you will automatically understand what I am saying...

How to be Romantic in Long Distance Relationships

blog@distancelovinghelp.com (Maria Madeira) — Sun, 21 May 2006 15:46:00 +0000

My Dear Lover,

Today I want to share with you a great resource that will help you to "get back" the romance in your Long Distance Relationship.

Please read until the end, because I have 2 questions for you!

How to be Romantic in Long Distance Relationships

By Alex Chew

Throughout our experience working with long distance couples, we frequently heard that long distance relationship does not have the elements of romance in it. This is not caused by the lack of love in long distance relationship but couples in such situation just do not know how to be romantic to each other. Romance in long distance relationship is necessary and it can make your relationship stronger regardless how far your lover may be.

There are million of things you can do to increase the romance in your long distance relationship. The basic rule here is to build your ability to show your distance partner that you really cherish and value the relationship throughout your LDR. Below are some of the areas you must understand and practice in order to increase the romance in your long distance relationship.

Sweet Talk
Communication is the most important thing in a long distance relationship and you must be able to talk sweetly over the telephone or any cheap channel that you can grab hold. Tell your partner that how you have missed and love them on their absence. Remember to tell your distance partner that you still treasure and care for them even when they are not physically around. Let them know that although you cannot be with them but you constantly think, enchanted and fascinated by them. Sweet talk can never be too much and you can do it as often as you like whenever you got the change to speak or communicate with your distance lover.

Listening with Care
Listening is the next most important thing in long distance relationship. It is important to be able to listen and understand completely the things that your partner is telling you whether it is about their day, wants or dreams. You are their only trusted person that they can look for to share and let their anger off without having to worry and therefore you must be able to listen with care when your partner needs you to lend them your ear. Sharing with your partner will always allow you to build and enhance the romantic moment in your relationship.

Love Note
Nothing is better that a written note with “I love you” message on it. Include this note whenever you send a letter to your distance partner or every time you send something to them. When you had the chance to meet your long distance partner, slip this note into their wallet, handbag, briefcase and etc without their knowledge. The note can be anything from simple “I miss you” to full blown love letter letting you distance partner know how much you have miss him or her.

Virtual Kiss
It may seem that kissing your partner is almost impossible in long distance relationship but you can always give a virtual kiss to your partner. You can always make a lipstick mark on a handkerchief with your mouth or write a “Kiss in Advance” note on a paper and send it to your partner. Tell your partner that you wanted to give them a kiss in advance and ask them to keep the handkerchief or note to remind you of the kiss when he or she sees you the next time.

Having Fun
Having fun is an important and serious matter in long distance relationship. Take the time to have fun with your distance lover. Both of your can always spend your time playing online computer game, surfing the internet, watching a movie at the same time or as well as spending the whole evening telling jokes to each other on the phone. Remember the good times that you both had while together and share them while chatting on the phone. You can also tease and make joke on your partner just to lighten up your conversation from time to time. Anyway you must know the limit as over teasing can cause hurt on your partner. The idea is to have fun while both of you had the opportunity to talk to each other on the phone.

Courtesy and Respect
Courtesy and respect are very important in long distance relationship. You partner may not be physically around but they are still part of your life and a little courtesy or respect can definitely pull both of your closer to each other. Remember to seek for your partner’s opinion in making a decision concerning the relationship and this will indirectly show them that you still care for them. Being romantic is to care, respect and understand your partner regardless where they may be.

Giving Compliments
Complimenting your partner is another way to show that you appreciate them in a long distance relationship. Think of something to complement your distance partner every day or every week. It does not have to be anything big or major. Something like “You look beautiful today” or “Your voice is sweet” will make your partner feel nice about them self even they are far away. On the other hand, you must remember to give only a sincere and honest compliment to your long distance partner. Your partner will certainly feel romantic knowing that you still admire and appreciate them despite the distance.

Above are the areas of romance to get you started and you can always create your own romantic moment by using the above examples. Be passionate about your LDR and romance will automatically show up at your doorstep. Lastly but not least I, on behalf of Perfect-Relationship.com would like to wish you all the best to your long distance relationship.

Alex Chew is an avid believer of Long Distance Relationship. He has been actively involved in helping distance couples on their journey through his research works and books. He is also the webmaster of http://www.distancelovinghelp.com/books/alexchew.html and the author of Manage Your Way to A Perfect Distance Relationship Guide
and several other e-books.

Copyright © 2005 Alex Chew & Perfect-Relationship.com

Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Alex_Chew

P.S. I want to congratulate you, for reading until the end, that means that you are taking your Long Distance Relationship for serious.

So here are the 2 questions for you, that I mention at the begin:

Question 1: What is the most important thing in a long distance relationship? (hint: go and read the "Sweet Talk" topic)

Question 2: What is the next most important thing in long distance relationship? (hint: Well, I guess that if you answer the first question, you know the answer to this question...)

"They" Need Your Help... To Say "A Million Thanks For Mom!"

blog@distancelovinghelp.com (Maria Madeira) — Sun, 14 May 2006 23:01:00 +0000

My Dear Lover,

"They" need your help... to say "A Million Thanks for Mom!"
all you need to do is click the link below, or copy and paste it
into your browser's address line:

http://clicks.aweber.com/z/ct/?5niYGYtTJSVXT6lUZwx78Q

P.S. Did you already say "Thank You Mom" today? No?!
Well what are you waiting for? Go now, and say to your Mom how much
you love her with all your heart. She will be so happy!

I don't want to receive any more email's like this one!

blog@distancelovinghelp.com (Maria Madeira) — Fri, 12 May 2006 00:30:00 +0000

My Dear Lover,

Some days ago I receive this email from one of my subscriber, telling me that her Long Distance Relationship did end!

Here is what she wrote to me:

"hie..i would like to say that this is an extremely good site,and that u all have helped me through my long distance relationship while it lasted.all your newsletters taught me many things and i'm grateful that i have u all to guide me.i once never believed that LDR can actually work,but i do now.even though my relationship didn't last,the reason of the break up was not from me.i did my best and have put in a lot of effort but unfortunately,my other half was not committed enough. but do keep up the good work.i'm sure many other people will benefit from your site in the future! thank you for everything :)"

Of course I am kind of sad but at same time kind of "happy".

I am sad because I do believe in Long Distance Relationships, hey I am in one for the last 3 years! And I get sad when I see that not all people that are living a Long Distance Relationship, can have the same kind of success I have in my Long Distance Relationship.

And I am kind of "happy" for 2 reasons.

The first is because when I put this website online ( http://www.distancelovinghelp.com), was to help you in your Long Distance Relationship. And although this subscriber didn't succeed in her relationship, she now believes in LDR, when in the past she didn't! "i once never believed that LDR can actually work,but i do now."

And the second reason I am kind of "happy" it's because, although I wanted to do this in the past, I didn't! You see the main reason that people unsuscribe to my e-course, it's because their Long Distance Relationship didn't work.

Thank God, that I have few un-subscribers!

But the fact is that when they un-subscribe, they send me an email, just like the last one I receive, thanking me for all the help I did provide to them, but things end up not working for them!

But this time I need your help!

I don't want to receive any more email's like this one!

And how can I get that?

Helping you even more! Maybe I receive email's like this one, because I could not help you in what you need more help!

Sometimes, just because we are living something, we think that the others that are living the same experience like us, have the same problems like we do.

But sometimes that is not true. Each Long Distance Relationship is unique. Of course you and me have some core "problems", the missing of ours beloved ones, the need of deep communication, the insecurity and etc., you know what I mean!

But for sure your Long Distance Relationship is different from mine. And what I am asking you is to tell me what is your biggest "problem" in your Long Distance Relationship, so I can help you even more, and like that maybe I will not receive more emails like that one!

I only want that you un-subscribe when your Long Distance Relationship arrive to the end, not because you broke, but because now you live together.

P.S. Even if your Long Distance Relationship arrive to the end because now you live together, if you wish, you can keep subscribed to my e-course, because it's more than a Long Distance Relationship e-course! Above all, it's an e-course about Love Relationships, (well at least I try once in a while to send you some great resource about Love Relationships, like the ones you can find in the section of the interviews, at http://www.distancelovinghelp.com/interviews/index.html )

P.P.S. Please, tell me what is your biggest "problem" in your Long Distance Relationship, so I can help you even more. Thanks.

I Have A Test For You ... And The Winner Is You...

blog@distancelovinghelp.com (Maria Madeira) — Fri, 05 May 2006 00:06:00 +0000

My Dear Lover,

Today I have a little test for you, are you ready? Good! So let's go.
All you need is fill the blanks.

Question 1:
Nothing can bridge the gap like the ________ of your partner's ________.

Question 2:
When you're missing your partner's touch, a _______ ______ _____
can be the closest remedy available.

Question 3:
Send your partner an item of __________ or something ______ that they can
______ or _______ daily.

Question 4:
One of the most effective ways to trigger an emotion is through the use of ______.

P.S. For you to win, all you need to do is answer the questions! And you can find the answers (well, and a lot more) at http://www.lovingyou.com/content/advice/ldr/content.shtml?ART=ldrintimacy

P.P.S. You did the test? No?! You have no idea how much you are losing...

Don't measure the distance, measure the Love, Maria Madeira.

"10 Ways to Close the Intimacy Gap in a Long Distance Relationship"

blog@distancelovinghelp.com (Maria Madeira) — Sun, 30 Apr 2006 23:00:00 +0000

My Dear Lover,

Today I want to share with you a great resource, it's "10 Ways to Close the Intimacy Gap in a Long Distance Relationship", that you can find at http://www.lovingyou.com/content/advice/ldr/content.shtml?ART=ldrintimacy

Until next time, I wish you health, wealth, happiness and a lot of love!And if I can be of any more help to you, please let me know!

Don't measure the distance, measure the Love, Maria Madeira.

P.S. After tell me if it's or isn't a great resource!

Happy (and BIG) Easter!!

blog@distancelovinghelp.com (Maria Madeira) — Sun, 16 Apr 2006 22:38:00 +0000

My Dear Lover,

Happy (and BIG) Easter!

Speaking in BIG, did you see World's Largest
BUNNY, a breed appropriately named "German Giant"

The owner in the picutre, Hans Wagner, says the little
rodent weighs in at 22 pounds and measures more than 3
feet long, even following a strict vegetarian
diet.
I surely wouldn't want
him in my garden!!!

Long Distance Relationship - Advice on Dos and Don'ts

blog@distancelovinghelp.com (Maria Madeira) — Sun, 16 Apr 2006 19:07:00 +0000

My Dear Lover,

Long Distance Relationship - Advice on Dos and Don'ts
By Alex Chew

Throughout our experience working with long distance relationship couples, we had discovered that there are lots of thing that we must do and as well as refrain from doing in order to survive the relationship. Below are some of the advices that we have compiled over the years. Although they may look simple but when it comes to the actual execution, it may take more than your effort and discipline. It is your desire to survive the relationship that makes the most impact in writing the outcome of your distance relationship. Consider some of the below do and don’t list and together with your desire, I am pretty sure you are able to conquer your distance relationship with ease and fun.

Do’s

1) Establish an effective communication channel

The very first thing that you must do in a long distance relationship is to establish an effective communication channel. Most people will think that telephone is the most convenient mode of communication but apart from the telephone services, there are some other alternative you can use. Instant messenger, emails, VOIP phone and conventional mails can be very effective if you know how to use them. Each of the communication channels has its own advantages and disadvantages and therefore you must start to explore each of them to enhance your communication experience.

2) Plan to meet each other

There is nothing more important than planning to meet each other again at an interval of time throughout the period of your long distance relationship. This will help both you and your partner to catch up with each other over the things that you cannot do while apart. The anticipation of seeing each other again will always give you the excitement, hope and as well as eliminating the lonely feeling in your LDR.

3) Build hobby that you can both share

By building and keeping a hobby, both of you will have something to discuss and work on throughout your distance relationship. Finding something to do online can be quite interesting judging from its speed and reach ability but never leave out conventional hobby as well because you do not need to have your partner’s physical present to share a hobby.

4) Surprise your partner

Occasionally surprise you partner with cards, gifts, letter and flower out of their expectation apart from your normal correspondence. Put your imagination to use and your partner will be sure to love your effort in keeping them happy. Sending the unexpected gifts to your partner will always spice up your distance relationship regardless how far your partner may be.

5) Capture and share that interesting moment

Throughout the period of your LDR, you can always capture some interesting moment of yours by exchanging photos, video clips and as well as audio recording. This will indirectly keep your partner informed on what has happen in your life despite the physical distance.

Don’ts

1) Settle for a temporary replacement

One of the mistakes that a distance relationship couple often make is to settle for a temporary replacement when their partner is not physical around. By letting a third party into your life, you will not only put your distance relationship to risk but you will also break the mutual trust and agreement that you make. Although it may not be done intentionally but this type of mistake will be very costly to your long distance relationship.

2) Take the relationship lightly

The absence of your partner does not give you the license to dictate and manipulate the relationship. You must remember that, your partner has their own right to participate in any decision making toward the well being of your relationship regardless where there are. A long distance relationship is also as important as a normal relationship and your partner has their own right to be treated fairly.

3) Wait and see attitude

Most of the failures in distance relationship that we observed are contributed by the wait and see attitude of the couples themselves. This was caused by the insecurity of the couple as they do not think that the LDR will work but at the same time they do not want to put a stop to the relationship. Let me tell you this, if you plan to have this kind of attitude, refrain from walking into one at the first place because both you and your partner will suffer in the relationship. In a LDR, both partners must be committed and proactive in bringing the relationship to a higher level.

4) Suspicion

There are no rooms for suspicion in a long distance relationship. In order for you to survive your distance relationship, you must learn to trust your partner whole heartedly. A single suspicion will break the bond you have for each other and it is a beginning of the end if you start to suspect your partner at any point of your LDR. Although it is easier said than done but trust me, if your partner is apt to do something unfaithful to you, they will still do it under your nose. Therefore there is no need for you to create such unnecessary stress in your LDR.

5) Succumb to negative comment on LDR

Couples in distance relationship always make a mistake by believing that LDR do not work. The negative impression you have in LDR will eventually hunt you down and destroy your relationship if you choose to listen to the negative comment. Therefore, once you have decided to enter into a long distance relationship, you must learn to believe that your relationship will work. I knew it because I had successfully conquered my own distance relationship due to the reason that I am not influence by any of the bad comments I received.

Alex Chew is an avid believer of Long Distance Relationship. He has been actively involved in helping distance couples on their journey through his research works and books. He is also the webmaster of http://www.perfect-relationship.com and the author of Manage Your Way to A Perfect Distance Relationship e-book.

Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Alex_Chew

P.S. Are you doing what you "should" do and what you "shouldn't" do in your Long Distance Relationship? Are you looking for a guide that can help you to manage your Long Distance Relationship then search no more, go to Manage Your Way to A Perfect Distance Relationship e-book.

P.P.S.Leave your comments here, Thanks!